It certainly doesn't feel like it was a whole year ago. Conversely, we've had Pepper for just over a month, but we can't believe it's only been that long. Somehow, time behaves differently up here. I'm sure the seasons of near-constant daylight/darkness are to blame for part of it.
For anyone looking to truly understand their partner, I'd recommend seven months in the Canadian Arctic. A little extreme, granted, but the effect has been enlightening. We make more time for each other, talk to each other more, and generally appreciate each other more, because we're all we've got. Now that we have Pepper, we find ourselves sharing our love for each other with a pint-sized creature, and that too has been a wonderful opportunity to grow more in love with each other. I made a comment during my wedding speech that sums up our experience. For those of you who weren't at "the best wedding ever"1, here is an approximation of my speech:
"People say that one's wedding day is the happiest moment of their lives, but this worries me slightly, because it implies that after today, there is a lifelong decline. My goal is to grow more in love with Lily every day, so that when we look back on our wedding day, we'll realize it was the day we loved each other the least."Lily has only left me speechless on two occasions. The first was at our matron-of-honour Tori's house for her birthday, and though I won't repeat what she said here, I knew the instant I heard it this was the woman for me. The second time reinforced that opinion, as it happened when I turned around at the church and saw her in her wedding gown for the first time. She was radiant, and again, I found myself at a loss for words.
I recall the advice my Dad's father gave my mother on their wedding day. He said, "The first year is ****. If you can make it through that, you'll be fine." It looks like we're a little closer to realizing that goal. I love you, Lily. Happy Anniversary. And Happy Family Day, too. xoxo
1. Everyone, Jeff & Lily's Wedding. Oakville: Oakville Convention Centre, 2012.